Gender? Transcend Any Label

For some, gender can be so confusing. Not fitting neatly into a checkbox can leave one feeling amiss.

As humans we strive for and typically require certainty. Ambiguity is unsettling.

Figuring out one’s gender may not be a destination, but a journey. Therein ambiguity continues.

Then there are those around you. They seek to have a definitive understanding of who you are all while you remain uncertain.

You may find yourself seeking to provide an answer to stave off the discomfort of the uncertainty. If not your own, then that felt by another projected upon you.

With that more discomfort. The label fails over time. You are perceived to have changed.

Truth is, you’ve just moved on from the comforting label you provided another seeking some peace from their discomfort, only now to confound with more ambiguity.

Learn to live with your uncertainty. As you do, so may it be easier for those others.

Explain you may never find a landing place for your gender. It may forever be a journey.

Do know, it changes nothing of your worth, your value, your intelligence, your core being.

Radiate, for regardless of landing on a gender, you are still beautiful and wonderful.

That can be your landing place. That can be your stability, your certainty. That need not confuse.

Radiate. Be a lovely person. Let that be your core.

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Gary Direnfeld is a social worker. Courts in Ontario, Canada, consider him an expert in social work, marital and family therapy, child development, parent-child relations and custody and access matters. Gary is the host of the TV reality show, Newlywed, Nearly Dead, former parenting columnist for the Hamilton Spectator and author of Marriage Rescue: Overcoming the ten deadly sins in failing relationships. Gary maintains a private practice in Georgina Ontario, providing a range of services for people in distress. He speaks at conferences and workshops throughout North America. He consults to mental health professionals as well as to mediators and collaborative law professionals about good practice as well as building their practice.