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Covid-19 Got You Down?

December 3, 2020

I was chatting with a parent today.

This was a single parent who had responsibility for the majority of care for three school aged kids.

Family support was virtually non-existent owing to covid restrictions given concern for aging parents.

At issue was exhaustion and feeling defeated. This was a person who normally wouldn’t experience these feelings.

The parent wondered what was wrong with themself.

Truth is, there was nothing wrong with this parent. The parent was reasonably overwhelmed with ongoing responsibility with little to no respite. Indeed, the parent was normal. However, normal isn’t always about feeling good. Normal is about what is reasonable to the circumstance. The parent in a sense, should be feeling exhausted.

We chatted about some viable solutions, not least of which was looking past the moment to the next 6 months or so.

By that time, warm weather will be upon us again. We will be outside more easily and regularly. The vaccine will be in distribution. Aging parents will be among first offered, perhaps after healthcare workers and essential workers. There is a light in this tunnel that hadn’t been visible before. So with a few suggestions to manage with the kids a bit more effectively, a light at the end of the tunnel, thoughts of warm weather returning and the ability to finally see extended kin, spirits lifted.

This parent could be any of us.

We are all touched someway by the imposition and effect of Covid-19. To feel overwhelmed or exhausted or defeated is within the range of normal. We get through this by accepting it as such, problem solving where we can and keeping our sights on the future.

Again, normal isn’t always about feeling good. If you are going through these issues and concerns, consider it appropriate to the circumstance. Problem solve where you can, remember, within 3 weeks, the days will be getting longer and brighter.

So too our disposition.

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I am Gary Direnfeld and I am a social worker. Check out all my services and then call me if you need help with a personal issue, mental health concern, child behavior or relationship, divorce or separation issue or even help growing your practice. I am available in person and by video conferencing.

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Gary Direnfeld is a social worker. Courts in Ontario, Canada, consider him an expert in social work, marital and family therapy, child development, parent-child relations and custody and access matters. Gary is the host of the TV reality show, Newlywed, Nearly Dead, former parenting columnist for the Hamilton Spectator and author of Marriage Rescue: Overcoming the ten deadly sins in failing relationships. Gary maintains a private practice in Georgina Ontario, providing a range of services for people in distress. He speaks at conferences and workshops throughout North America. He consults to mental health professionals as well as to mediators and collaborative law professionals about good practice as well as building their practice.

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