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Chasing Lies and Swatting Flies – When the ex goes on….

June 17, 2020

Separated parents in conflict may say anything to discredit the other parent.

This is infuriating when based on half-truths and/or outright lies.

The knee-jerk reaction is to want to set the record straight.

However, in so doing, the other returns with a vengeance, producing more misinformation to maintain the discrediting. Like a swarm of flies, swatting seems to bring on even more until one is engulfed.

As difficult as it may be, the only strategy that has any semblance of working, is letting it go.

While many pine that this isn’t fair, I can only agree. But the issue isn’t about what is fair. The issue is not getting bogged down, taken deeper into someone else’s rabbit hole.

Let their behavior be a reflection on them.

Continue to lead a reasonable life.

Be known for how people experience you directly, not as told by someone in anger.


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Gary Direnfeld is a social worker. Courts in Ontario, Canada, consider him an expert in social work, marital and family therapy, child development, parent-child relations and custody and access matters. Gary is the host of the TV reality show, Newlywed, Nearly Dead, former parenting columnist for the Hamilton Spectator and author of Marriage Rescue: Overcoming the ten deadly sins in failing relationships. Gary maintains a private practice in Georgina Ontario, providing a range of services for people in distress. He speaks at conferences and workshops throughout North America. He consults to mental health professionals as well as to mediators and collaborative law professionals about good practice as well as building their practice.

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