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Crazy Thinkin’: We all do this kind….

November 4, 2019

As crazy as this sounds I grew up thinking the whole world was Jewish.

You see, I was raised in the Jewish part of Toronto. My family was Jewish. All my elementary school classes were filled with Jewish students. All the stores where we shopped were staffed by Jewish people.

When we moved north of Toronto to Thornhill in 1967, for the first time, I was surrounded by non-Jews. Folks there were predominantly White Anglo-Saxon Protestant.

I still thought the whole world was Jewish, the whole world, except Thornhill.

This is known as a logical fallacy. It’s logical to think how I thought given my experience, even though it was a fallacy – untrue.

We are all loaded with logical fallacies. The thing is, we don’t see them in ourselves, those beliefs we hold, beliefs without merit.

When we argue with another, it may be a result of our own logical fallacy or that of the other (or both).

Knowing I may still have logical fallacies, I am cautious about what and when I will hold firm when confronted with a view contrary to my own.

Rather than run to argue and defend I find being curious helps.

I will be curious as to what substantiates the the other’s point of view as well as my own.

With some folks we can be curious together.

The challenge when seeking to explore though, is resisting gathering information that only supports one’s own point of view. The challenge is to be curious with an open mimd.

With that I learned the whole word isn’t Jewish.

Who knows what I may learn next.

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Gary Direnfeld is a social worker. Courts in Ontario, Canada, consider him an expert in social work, marital and family therapy, child development, parent-child relations and custody and access matters. Gary is the host of the TV reality show, Newlywed, Nearly Dead, former parenting columnist for the Hamilton Spectator and author of Marriage Rescue: Overcoming the ten deadly sins in failing relationships. Gary maintains a private practice in Georgina Ontario, providing a range of services for people in distress. He speaks at conferences and workshops throughout North America. He consults to mental health professionals as well as to mediators and collaborative law professionals about good practice as well as building their practice.

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