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I Want to Survive

July 14, 2018

There are two things that make us uniquely human:

  1. The will to survive;
  2. Concern over limited resources to survive.

Given the will to survive we typically will fight to escape death, not only on our own behalf, but on behalf of at least our family, then our friends and then others. There is a pecking order to this survival.

Picture 14Given the world and us have limited resources, we then concern ourselves with amassing those resources to appease our need for survival. In amassing those resources we then consider amassing those resources in groups. The group may be the family, the community and/or the country.

An issue becomes in determining who is in our group. By what distinction do we differentiate our group from another and then fight for those resources on behalf of the group?

With that, family members fight over inheritances; communities fight over what may affect property values; and countries fight over such resources such as what creates purchasing power and access to other resources such as water or food or personal safety.

We pit groups against each other based on differences in the quest to amass our resources.

However, throughout all this, there are also those who recognize that in order to appease the need to survive, we must to at least to some degree, share our resources, lest those with less seek to take ours through violence which then undermines survival.

So we give to others. We give within our families, communities, countries and even internationally.

Those with limited vision or those whose access to resources are truly limited and only provided at or near existence levels argue against giving abroad not recognizing that giving abroad does also provide some modicum of safety from infiltration by others seeking our resources by violence.

And so the world is organized into groups, groups who have identifiable characteristics to make identity and affiliation easy for the amassing of resources for survival.

However, the population has swollen and resources are shrinking and we are poisoning our supplies. So, we fight more and with greater concern for survival and access to those precious resources.

In our fight, we raise the image our group to limit the infiltration of the other groups.

Our vision of humanity is limited. We do not see the folly of group against group and this limits cooperative behavior. Thus we become anti-immigration, anti-identifiable minority, anti…. We put babies in cages to limit families who flea oppression and lack of resources to limit their access to other resources that are held tightly by groups of more means. We use tactics of vilification, demonizing others to justify our hoarding of resources. We become a mean-spirited society all in the service of our holding on to resources.

This is a topsy -turvy world. The race to save oneself is at the peril of losing that which also makes us uniquely human, our humanity, our compassion.

What if we had a vision of a broader group for which we fought for survival? What if it included the whole of the world? What if we pulled together instead of apart? What if we collaborated towards this vision?

Would we then seek to have clean air for all? Would we seek to maintain an abundance of clean water for all? Would we seek security of the person for all?

We must choose. Fighting is always fraught with uncertainty. One never knows for sure who will succeed.

Collaborating though seeks to offer a win-win for all. It may not be as lavash as the spoils going to the winner but that is uncertain and at tremendous cost.

I would much rather do with less on behalf of a larger group and insure greater safety and security for all than take a more restrictive view where harm is imposed.

I not only want to preserve humanity, but my personal humanity.

Seek leaders who seek peace and prosperity on behalf of the world. Stand for humanity, worldly and personally. Seek and practice compassion. Share.

Let us all win. With that we survive and thrive.

I am Gary Direnfeld and I am a social worker. Check out all my services and then call me if you need help with a personal issue, mental health concern, child behavior or relationship, divorce or separation issue or even help growing your practice. I am available in person and by Skype.

Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW for counseling and support – to build your successful practice

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Gary Direnfeld is a social worker. Courts in Ontario, Canada, consider him an expert in social work, marital and family therapy, child development, parent-child relations and custody and access matters. Gary is the host of the TV reality show, Newlywed, Nearly Dead, parenting columnist for the Hamilton Spectator and author of Marriage Rescue: Overcoming the ten deadly sins in failing relationships. Gary maintains a private practice in Dundas and Georgina Ontario, providing a range of services for people in distress. He speaks at conferences and workshops throughout North America. He consults to mental health professionals as well as to mediators and collaborative law professionals about good practice as well as building their practice.

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