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Some of My Life’s Lessons…

August 15, 2017

Here is some of what I have learned with 35 years of practice, working with people of all faiths, colour, race, ethnicity, culture, sexual orientation and age:

  • There are good and bad people everywhere;

  • Most people are good;

  • We typically all want loving relationships;

  • We typically all want for our families to be well;

  • We typically all want healthy children who grow into responsible adults;

  • We are typically concerned/worried when we are threatened;

  • Lack of resources can pit people against each other;

  • It is important to learn to share;

  • Virtually all faiths when practiced well demonstrate concern, love and compassion for others;

  • Children with angry hateful or abusive parents are at risk of growing up with all sorts of social problems including perpetuating their parents’ attitudes;

  • Hate and anger does not provide a remedy to hate and anger;

  • While accountability is reasonable, punishment as a means to bring about accountability typically only brings resentment which fuels negative behaviors;

  • Even when told by a loved one, what to do, at times it is just necessary to hear it from someone else;

  • There is no discounting good manners, even in a loving relationship. Good manners always matter;

  • Racism, bigotry, prejudice must be called out for what it s, lest it flourishes;

  • Violence cannot be tolerated, lest it flourishes;

  • It is reasonable to distance oneself from harmful people and relationships;

  • Children are far more influenced by what goes on at home that most parents realize;

  • Love does not conquer all;

  • We live with actual behavior, not one’s intentions;

  • Behavior is best when it matches good intentions;

  • It is necessary to speak out against violence and hate;

  • It is necessary to show love and compassion, to all and especially to our partners and children.

That’s the short list.

I am Gary Direnfeld and I am a social worker. Check out all my services and then call me if you need help with a personal issue, mental health concern, child behavior or relationship, divorce or separation issue. I am available in person and by Skype.

Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW

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Gary Direnfeld is a social worker. Courts in Ontario, Canada, consider him an expert in social work, marital and family therapy, child development, parent-child relations and custody and access matters. Gary is the host of the TV reality show, Newlywed, Nearly Dead, parenting columnist for the Hamilton Spectator and author of Marriage Rescue: Overcoming the ten deadly sins in failing relationships. Gary maintains a private practice in Dundas and Georgina Ontario, providing a range of services for people in distress. He speaks at conferences and workshops throughout North America. He consults to mental health professionals as well as to mediators and collaborative law professionals about good practice as well as building their practice.

One Comment
  1. Callie permalink

    I’m 51 years old. Today I discovered your writings. I’m truly thankful.

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