10 Rules for Dealing with a Difficult Co-Parent
- Be nice. As irresistible as it may be to discharge your anger, be nice.
- Don’t expect anything in return.
- Tell your child good things about the other parent.
- Return items that are sent along with your child. If you lose an item, buy another to return.
- Be on time.
- Notify your ex of any medical, health or emergency issue as soon as possible.
- Share information about school freely and quickly.
- Do not badmouth your ex to other people – friends or family.
- Manage finances as agreed upon.
- Notify your ex of any intended changes to the residential schedule.
- If going on a holiday, advise your ex of your itinerary and means of contact.
- If of different faiths or cultures, be respectful of your differences.
- When communicating, do not raise your voice. Remain calm and only use language you would use in public.
- Share information about appointments affecting your child.
- Do not let other people, friends or family badmouth the other parent when your child is within hearing range.
- Tell the other parent about particular accomplishments during your own time with your child.
OK that was more than ten. I just couldn’t resist once I was on a roll.Of course you don’t have to do any of these, but do consider how this may affect the well being of your child.
Please comment and indicate what additional rules you could add!
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