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Therapy? To begin, only for one reason….

September 5, 2016

I really do feel for those who need therapy.

To need therapy means something either hasn’t or isn’t going right in your life. It means you are in distress. You or your relationship is at its wit’s end.

Rarely does anyone see a therapist when things are just a little turbulent. People consider therapy only when things have been tough for a while and they go when it feels like a faint last hope of turning things around. In other words, most people who attend therapy, especially for the first time, go because they are desperate.

In thinking about therapy you then have to determine if you believe in that stuff. You contemplate, does it work? You ask yourself, how does talking to someone else about my problems make things better?

And then there’s the cost. Without employee benefits or if you really want to choose your therapist, it can cost hundreds if not thousands of dollars. How do you invest in something you may not believe in and if you do, how do you protect your ego or your dignity when concerned about what needs to be discussed?

Therapy is scary, overwhelming, imposing and it often costs.

No wonder people think twice about attending and that doesn’t even include the stoic who believe they just have to suck it up – whatever it is. To add yet another barrier to attending, there isn’t even a guarantee that therapy will resolve anything.

So why do people go to therapy? Why do they begin?

The answer is hope.

People hope that the therapy will resolve the issues; that they will be freed from distress; that relationships will improve; that things will get better.

For many folks, this is the outcome. For others, the outcome may include better strategies to cope thus alleviating some distress – to make it bearable without necessarily changing the conditions that led to it.

Typically we are helpful, often to varying degrees and to a few, not at all. Truth.

However, if you would like to invest in yourself or your relationship, if you would like to hope, cope or change, we’re here. Therapists.

No promises, but hope. We would like to be of service. Yes we earn a living from what we do, but we do this because we care about people. Otherwise, we would be doing something else.

And by the way, we are helpful to most people we serve.

You can always start just by calling and asking what’s involved. Opening the door costs nothing and can lead to a better place. We’re here to help. Therapists.

I am Gary Direnfeld and I am a social worker. Please check out my services and then call me or any other therapist for that matter if you need help with a child behavior, relationship issue or upsetting life event.

If you know someone who may benefit from therapy, please share this blog with the links below. Maybe they will see it. Maybe they need help to find hope. 

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Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW

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Gary Direnfeld is a social worker. Courts in Ontario, Canada, consider him an expert in social work, marital and family therapy, child development, parent-child relations and custody and access matters. Gary is the host of the TV reality show, Newlywed, Nearly Dead, parenting columnist for the Hamilton Spectator and author of Marriage Rescue: Overcoming the ten deadly sins in failing relationships. Gary maintains a private practice in Dundas and Georgina Ontario, providing a range of services for people in distress. He speaks at conferences and workshops throughout North America.

If your relationship is faltering, then set it as your priority.

Read: Marriage Rescue: Overcoming ten deadly sins in failing relationships

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