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RECIPE FOR A HEALTHY CHILD

March 13, 2016

Basic Ingredients

  1. At least one loving adult whose needs are differentiated from the child’s and who puts the child’s needs first.
  2. Information given liberally so that the child always knows what’s going on and what’s expected.
  3. Feedback given liberally, like a signpost, to keep the child on the right track.
  4. Consequences to help the child learn right from wrong, good from bad, the meaning of “no”, and respect for one another.
  5. Negotiation as a way out of conflicts when it is reasonable for both adult and child to be winners.
  6. A clean and safe environment extending from one’s home to the community and to the world.
  7. Food, water, shelter, clothing, education and freedom from harm.
  8. A chance to be special, a zillion times a year.

Directions

Take all the basic ingredients and blend them in equal and generous amounts (like chocolate chip cookies – more is better). Bake in a home warmed by caring and sharing. During the baking process, demonstrate all aspects of appropriate values. Treat each other well. Play with one another. Let your child participate in doing good deeds with you. Be prepared to stand back as the child rises. (You don’t want to stifle rising children or they can fall flat. Also you don’t want to open the door too quickly, before they are set to stand on their own. It’s important to get it just right.)

If you follow this recipe as closely as you can, you will find that there is room for mistakes because when you use good ingredients the mix develops some forgiveness. (This is a secret ingredient that develops out of the combination effect of the other ingredients.)

When is the child ready to enjoy?

The really neat thing about this recipe is that a child is always ready to enjoy, even when they continue to rise. You can enjoy your child anytime you take the time.

Bon Appetit!

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Need help with your child? Call me.

I am Gary Direnfeld and I am a social worker.

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Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW

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Gary Direnfeld is a social worker. Courts in Ontario, Canada, consider him an expert in social work, marital and family therapy, child development, parent-child relations and custody and access matters. Gary is the host of the TV reality show, Newlywed, Nearly Dead, parenting columnist for the Hamilton Spectator and author of Marriage Rescue: Overcoming the ten deadly sins in failing relationships. Gary maintains a private practice in Dundas and Georgina Ontario, providing a range of services for people in distress. He speaks at conferences and workshops throughout North America.

If your relationship is faltering, then set it as your priority.

Read: Marriage Rescue: Overcoming ten deadly sins in failing relationships.

One Comment
  1. I printed and put this up at my workplace, Gary

    mmv

    On 13 March 2016 at 20:11, Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW wrote:

    > Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW posted: “Basic Ingredients At least one loving > adult whose needs are differentiated from the child’s and who puts the > child’s needs first. Information given liberally so that the child always > knows what’s going on and what’s expected. Feedback given liberally” >

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