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About Breastfeeding… or not

February 5, 2016

I recently read a Facebook post about breastfeeding and it prompted me to write this:

When I take a child’s developmental history from the parent, I ask about feeding.

If bottle fed, I am curious about the mother’s experience with the attitudes towards her for her decision.

Some mothers have no issues to report and some provide stories of being shamed for bottle feeding over breastfeeding. This in turn appears to at times undermine their confidence to parent which can in turn impact the child. Some of these mothers report feeling anxious or less of a valid parent as a result.

As we talk about he benefit of breast-feeding, which is clear, I can only hope though that people appreciate that for whatever reason, not all mothers can or chose to do so.

We must be aware of the social context and impact on the mother and child for how or if their decision to bottle feed is addressed by others. Shame and blame does not facilitate parenting. Support and understanding does.

One’s response may be more detrimental than the perceived outcome of her decision.

Respect, educate and inform. Don’t judge.

You may never know how her decision was formed.

I am Gary Direnfeld and I am a social worker.

Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW

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Gary Direnfeld is a social worker. Courts in Ontario, Canada, consider him an expert in social work, marital and family therapy, child development, parent-child relations and custody and access matters. Gary is the host of the TV reality show, Newlywed, Nearly Dead, parenting columnist for the Hamilton Spectator and author of Marriage Rescue: Overcoming the ten deadly sins in failing relationships. Gary maintains a private practice in Dundas Ontario, providing a range of services for people in distress. He speaks at conferences and workshops throughout North America.

If your relationship is faltering, then set it as your priority.

Read: Marriage Rescue: Overcoming ten deadly sins in failing relationships.

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