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Kids Know and Now Their Parents Too!

November 27, 2015

Last nights talk to the parents  at Northport Elementary school in Port Elgin was great.

In the afternoon I met with the grade 7 and 8 students to learn about the issues they were grappling with. I advised the students I would inform the parents in the evening of the issues they identified. I also provided the students strategies to address the issues they identified.

The students wanted parents to know they are stressed and hope their parents appreciate that their stress affects them the same as parents are affected by stress. So they don’t want their feelings or issues dismissed or minimized just because they are young.

I delivered the messages from the students from earlier in the day.

One parent asked what the biggest issue was faced by kids today.

I explained it was us – adults and parents. We are often too busy ourselves. We have our faces buried in our devices. We are either not holding our kids accountable or alternately hovering overhead and not letting them experience life. We have many kids over-programmed and others not enough.

northportWhen asked for a solution, in addition to providing strategies to improve relationships through how we the adults and parents communicate with kids, I explained the value of sharing meals with our kids.

The simple act of eating meals together strengthens relationships.

Cook together and enjoy the process with your kids involving them kindly.

Kids do want relationships with their parents. Enjoy wholesome respectful relationships. The onus is on is, the adults to take the lead in a way that respects the child’s dignity – despite what the child may throw at us. Can be challenging at times so I provided several great strategies for supporting the parents. Great day. Great evening.

I am Gary Direnfeld and I am a social worker.

Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW

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Gary Direnfeld is a social worker. Courts in Ontario, Canada, consider him an expert in social work, marital and family therapy, child development, parent-child relations and custody and access matters. Gary is the host of the TV reality show, Newlywed, Nearly Dead, parenting columnist for the Hamilton Spectator and author of Marriage Rescue: Overcoming the ten deadly sins in failing relationships. Gary maintains a private practice in Dundas Ontario, providing a range of services for people in distress. He speaks at conferences and workshops throughout North America.

If your relationship is faltering, then set it as your priority.

Read: Marriage Rescue: Overcoming ten deadly sins in failing relationships.

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