When Separated Parents Badmouth Each Other
If I am half of each parent, what am I if both parents convince me the other is bad?
This 2 minute video explains…
Here is another explanation by Rosalind Sedacca.
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Gary Direnfeld is a social worker. Courts in Ontario, Canada, consider him an expert in social work, marital and family therapy, child development, parent-child relations and custody and access matters. Gary is the host of the TV reality show, Newlywed, Nearly Dead, parenting columnist for the Hamilton Spectator and author of Marriage Rescue: Overcoming the ten deadly sins in failing relationships. Gary maintains a private practice in Dundas Ontario, providing a range of services for people in distress. He speaks at conferences and workshops throughout North America.
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I received this enlightened comment on my youtube page:
Please don’t limit this to separated parents as lots of married parents attack each other; it’s just more covert. A principal once said to me, “The reason your kids are so great is because they’re not products of divorce”. I said, “No, my kids are great because they have 2 parents who love them and respect each other … and by the way … we divorced years ago.” Ever seen a principal speechless? I have … LOL.
I received this comment from another chat area and thought it was very enlightening:
Gary, I just had a moment to view your video. The power of the idea that children become “hopeless” or believe what they do doesn’t matter, as a result of being taught to perceive a parent(s) as “bad” (and also that part of themselves), is great. Explains so much to me.
When my daughter was 10, I said something not so nice about her Dad’s behavior (we had been divorced 9 years). She drew herself up and said this to me. “I’m going to tell you the same thing I told my Dad. When you say something not-nice about my Dad, that hurts me. Because I love my Dad. I don’t like to hear not-nice things from you about someone I love.” Straightened me out on the spot!